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Post by lost on Aug 19, 2004 5:44:48 GMT -5
I have know this man in egypt for 3 years , he has asked nothing of me, only my love. He told me whne we first chatted that he was 26. He sent a pic which showed he looked older than 26. Then lasy year he finally turned a cam on and no way does he looks in his late 20"s. He looks more in his early 40's. This has been worrying me as i am 47. I felt sick to my stomach when he told me that he loved me as i felt like an old deprived women seeking love at any age. But he said age is not a problem. Maybe not to some , but if he would just tell me the truth about his age I would be so happy. But for now, I am trying to be kind and not cruel to him. As many times i wanted to end it , but he kept on with phone messages and letters and offliners. He knows i am much older. I have spoken to his family on the phone and have seen them on cam and they r lovely people. He wants me to come to him and see if i like egypt and if i do he wants to marry me. He had spoken to me about Islam but never forced it on me. What also makes me think he is lieing about his age is that he is a school teacher and he is in doors more times than he is out doors, and i would understand the age between him being in his 20's and not in his 40's. But i may be a bad judge of age. He has the intelligence of an older man as well. I could be wrong in the age thing , but i feel im not. Then i read where egyptian men have much pride. Maybe he feels if he tells me his real age i will never trust him. Each time i ask him about his age he denies being any older. I am not trying to see him as an age to myself, all i see is what i see in the cam. ..........maybe the cam lies........
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Post by bluemoon on Aug 19, 2004 7:06:47 GMT -5
hi, I think that you must make much attention with him.....much of them always tell that age is not important, is important the head and other things. This only for make you lovers, so, after, you make everything for him..... usually the true interest for they is money, visa. You know that much of their have family in Egypt, they are married and if he do see you his family,don't believe that this is a good sign..... ........much times the family is agree with this because we are MONEY !!!!!! they see we only as better life for all family. You tell that you have met him in net.....I think that a love can't born on-line......how can him love you really if never has see you? he not know your characther,your behaviour, he don't know nothing on you and want to marry you? ? ummmmm.......if you are 47 years old, think very well to this.... I have seen in Sharm much egyptian boy with age about 23/28 years with women with age about 50/55.....they want only money, also for 15 days in holiday,much of them make a Orfi marriage and this also with other women, so, they have always moneybecause when a 1 foreigner come back in her country, other women come from him.... I'm sorry tell you this but this is the reality......
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Post by lost on Aug 19, 2004 7:44:59 GMT -5
re bluemoon: Thank u for ur quick reply to my question. So for 3 years that i have known him he has never asked for a visa nor money. His mother is a school nurse and his father works in a post office. And they r not a poor family. So to me, i dont feel he is needing anything from me. So this is a common thing for younger men and older women to be together in Egypt? Oh, and he is the only child. I just feel he is not the age he is telling me as he does not talk like a man in his 20's.......even his choice of music is the not that of a young man. But , tell me do they feel if they lie, and get found out, do they feel like most of us do, that they gain no trust? ::)hmmmmmmmmm..............surely to tell the truth is far better than no truth at all. And do u think he has family , a wife and children?? I feel he maybe is divorced, as he sent me pics of 2 children claiming they were his cousins children. I feel it is possible to love on the net, i have read many cases that have loved and finally married. But i guess i feel that for a western women and an egyptian man there r more obstacles to climb. As Islam is the most part of the middle eastern world. And the western women that gets involved with an egyptian man has to discover many things........more so if she was marrying her own kind.......... Oh i have sent many gifts over to him and his parents and they always tell me not to do this as they feel shy of accepting. thank u again bluemoon for ur answer.
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Post by bluemoon on Aug 19, 2004 10:53:46 GMT -5
I hope that you have find a good man, there are also a good men in Egypt. I have had a bad love story with egy man, really and now I have lose all my trust in them. My man has played with me, with my feelings....for 1 years.....now i'm not suffer for this,I hate him with all my heart because nobody in my life have made this....nobody men in all word can to be so bad as egy men, believe me..... But all its been my guilty, I have been stupid for have believed in him, have given trust in him........ I hope that your man is different,that he is a really a good man,but you stay allways with your eyes much open. maybe you have't been in Egypt and for this much things can same strange, but all in Egypt is as i have told you. I wish for you beautifull things with him, but please, always keep open your eyes !!!!
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Post by lost on Aug 19, 2004 18:47:01 GMT -5
:)Thank you again for your reply. And really I can feel ur anger towards the man u had dealt with. And my heart goes out to you. Is the picture of the man in the section alloted to put pictures, is that him?? I first when i looked at it thought he has a good program to set up a magazine to make him look important on the front cover. But i must say he is a very good looking man. And I will take your advise and keep my eyes well and truly opened........As i feel I have done this by the way in which i have seen him as a much older man than what he is telling me. I do plan on meeting him and his family.........so I guess all will be revealed on that meeting.....Thank you bluemoon...........
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Post by rose on Aug 20, 2004 0:10:50 GMT -5
Lost! i have had many experience with egyptian men who say they are 28 and later on find that they r either 38 or 44.....maybe they shame coz they not married or are married.........who knows why they do this. But a cam tells the truth more than a picture they send. I changed my id one day coz this man told me he was 28 and i wanted to see if he was a player on the net. Sure enough he told me he was 38.......so what do u believe. But reading about ur egyptian man he sounds pretty okay apart from the age . Then i ask u why would a man in his 20's want with an older women?? Thats if he is in his 20's. .i believe he is not by ur story. And i mean u have known him for long time , wouldnt u think it this time he would be honest with u with his age as im sure to me , my feelings that he is not in his 20's.
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Post by lost on Aug 26, 2004 9:22:08 GMT -5
TEXTOkay .........there is a pattern here with the egyptian men and this has been my experience and many that i have spoken to .........lets go and tick anything off that sounds familar......... 1. they ask u about ur favourite colour 2.they begin to teach u arabic words.....like enta habiby,enta kol hiaty. enta ahabak....all the words of love 3. if they younger than u they say age is nothing its what is in the heart 4. they tell u they cant eat or sleep coz ur on their mind since the first chat 5.they feel u walking beside them in their awakening hours 6.they tell u they have told their parents about u and that they have asked their sisters "what should i do ?'' as i love her so much 7.then they tell u they have got something silver for u , but they cant post it as it is forbidden 8. they call u princess, baby, honey, ..then my wife 9. they speak to u about islam wanting u to become muslimah 10.they want u to ring them 11.ask for money 12. ask u to come to them 13. tell u they r virgins 14.tell u they want to make love but dont know how to say the words, but they soon say the words. 16. tell u they cant marry u as ur not muslim 17.many excuses why they were not on the net after 3 weeks of waiting for them 18.they make days to talk to u ........every 4 days but what r they doing in between those days?? 19. oh yes, give u a password to one of their accounts. 20.tell u they r poor and then turn around and say they r going on a vacation to the beachs.
I know i have missed many but im sure some of us have experienced at least 3 or 4 of the above mentioned..........lets know ur score........some of us have been suckered in t their plan.......and im sure there must be a book they all follow..............
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Post by thomas on Aug 28, 2004 8:31:01 GMT -5
Hello Lost
I know it is so stupid and one day they will soon find out that it will not fly anymore.
I wont bore you too much with my sob story but he has given me the whole I can't go on with my life, given me a password for his hotmail which is so stupid!!
oh well guess we live and learn
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